This week I was a speaker at an event that featured a Sports Psychologist. She discussed some things that stop people doing the things they want to do.
I see this a lot with my clients. In particular with having had home based clients for several years I have seen people that struggle to exercise because they are scared what other people will think if they see them. That’s everything from not wanting to go to the gym, running outside or even joining a group class. I get it, if you are feeling out of shape or if exercise is new to you then it can be pretty scary to step outside your comfort zone.
If you have never been to the gym, you imagine a place of ripped gym freaks all staring at out of shape no idea what you’re doing you. Well for most gyms I’ve visited that is simply not the case. In fact people will not even notice you are there! Those ripped gym freaks are too busy looking at themselves in the mirror, and the other regular folk probably feel as self-conscious as you so they certainly aren’t judging you.
If you think you can’t exercise outside because people will stare just ask yourself how many times you have driven passed someone out for a run and mocked or belittled them for it??? Probably never ……………..or you are just not a nice person and you should probably address that. So if that’s what you want to do as part of your healthy lifestyle get out there and do it, and then be hugely disappointed by the lack of hecklers!
That group exercise class, in your head is full of super models with Olympic gymnast strength and flexibility. Have you ever been to a class like that? I’ve been to plenty of classes in my time and I can honestly say not one of them has been like that. They have just been filled with various different kinds of regular people, some like you, and yes some will be super fit but not the entire class-and the super fit ones……they don’t care what you are doing they are too focused on what they are doing. Everyone else is just trying to survive the event like you!
So, I hope you can see that the only person being negative about you exercising is you. Having a rational talk with yourself and looking at what is actually happening in the situation rather than what your emotional, self-conscious head tells you is happening is a good way to break down your own barriers. If not……..well my studio is pretty private so only you and I need know what goes on in there!